1. I guess at what normal is.
  2. I have difficulty following projects through from beginning to end.
  3. I lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
  4. I judge myself without mercy.
  5. I have difficulty with intimate relationships.
  6. I have difficulty having fun.
  7. I take myself very seriously.
  8. I over-react to changes over which I have no control.
  9. I feel different from other people
  10. I constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  11. I am either super responsible or super irresponsible.
  12. I am extremely loyal even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.
  13. I look for immediate as opposed to deferred gratification.
  14. I lock myself into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternate behaviors or possible consequences.
  15. I seek tension and crisis and then complain about the results.
  16. I avoid conflict or aggravate it: rarely do I deal with it.
  17. I fear rejection and abandonment, yet I am rejecting of others.
  18. I fear failure, but sabotage my success.
  19. I fear criticism and judgement, yet I criticize and judge others.
  20. I manage my time poorly and do not set my priorities in a way that works well for me.

See also: Characteristics of an Adult Child, by Janet G. Woititz, Ed.D., 1987